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Where did the sun go?!
Jun. 6th, 2020 07:40 amAfter weeks of hot, sunny weather, suddenly it's raining. The main effect of this is that I can't dry my washing outside. Of course, the garden itself is loving it, so yay for the plants!
Had an interesting conversation with the boys the other night about how the husband and I stayed together. And the son confirmed our suspicions that he's never had a regular girlfriend.
Last night's conversation about BLM was less successful. One thing I forgot to mention (on this occasion) was my experience of being the only white person in a room. It lasted a whole half-hour but it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. Nobody was hostile or threatening but it gave me a glimpse into what life is like for POC ALL the time. But my boys aren't racists and they don't feel privileged - but they feel the world is threatening them just for being straight white men. If being a straight white man - none of which they can help or do anything about! - is bad in and of itself, how do they defend themselves (and they feel the need to defend themselves against what they perceive as attacks from society and, unfortunately, me)? If I suggest, however gently, that that's how POC, women, and LGBTQIA+ people feel, they reply 'no they don't'. Well, how the fuck do you know what anyone else feels?!
And so we go round the loop again. But I kept my temper last night, so there's that.
A productive week at work, and a new project to get my teeth into - suddenly and out of the blue, of course *sigh* But one of the new PMs is a person I can talk to, so we'll see how that relationship develops.
Shopping and cleaning and gaming on the agenda today :)
Had an interesting conversation with the boys the other night about how the husband and I stayed together. And the son confirmed our suspicions that he's never had a regular girlfriend.
Last night's conversation about BLM was less successful. One thing I forgot to mention (on this occasion) was my experience of being the only white person in a room. It lasted a whole half-hour but it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. Nobody was hostile or threatening but it gave me a glimpse into what life is like for POC ALL the time. But my boys aren't racists and they don't feel privileged - but they feel the world is threatening them just for being straight white men. If being a straight white man - none of which they can help or do anything about! - is bad in and of itself, how do they defend themselves (and they feel the need to defend themselves against what they perceive as attacks from society and, unfortunately, me)? If I suggest, however gently, that that's how POC, women, and LGBTQIA+ people feel, they reply 'no they don't'. Well, how the fuck do you know what anyone else feels?!
And so we go round the loop again. But I kept my temper last night, so there's that.
A productive week at work, and a new project to get my teeth into - suddenly and out of the blue, of course *sigh* But one of the new PMs is a person I can talk to, so we'll see how that relationship develops.
Shopping and cleaning and gaming on the agenda today :)
