Child of my child...
Nov. 20th, 2021 08:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rosa_heartlilySo... the daughter has had a miscarriage...
I have Feelings about this that relate to the lost pregnancy at least as much to her physical wellbeing. And it's hard to talk to anyone else because to them there wasn't anything really there to lose. But for me there was.
Part of it, for her too, is that we didn't even know she WAS pregnant until she wasn't, so it's a kind of double loss - without being a loss at all. Seeing the confusion here? She and her fiance aren't trying as such but they aren't NOT trying, if you see what I mean.
At least we've all been spared the excitement of looking forward to a baby only for it to not be.
But she and her fiance know that they CAN get pregnant. She's going to take things easy for a while and then go back to not stopping it.
I have Feelings about this that relate to the lost pregnancy at least as much to her physical wellbeing. And it's hard to talk to anyone else because to them there wasn't anything really there to lose. But for me there was.
Part of it, for her too, is that we didn't even know she WAS pregnant until she wasn't, so it's a kind of double loss - without being a loss at all. Seeing the confusion here? She and her fiance aren't trying as such but they aren't NOT trying, if you see what I mean.
At least we've all been spared the excitement of looking forward to a baby only for it to not be.
But she and her fiance know that they CAN get pregnant. She's going to take things easy for a while and then go back to not stopping it.
