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Apr. 17th, 2024 09:09 pmI belong to the 'women's network' at work. I don't normally go for that sort of thing - I actively resisted the 'women's book group' at church, for example - but... I don't know... maybe it's working in a male-dominated department...? I definitely want to see women building each other up and to be part of that positivity. Anyway, one of the things the network does is 'coffee roulette'. You volunteer your name and get randomly paired with someone, meet for coffee and a chat and see if you click. If not, well it was only coffee; if you do, you have a new friend. I joined in the first round, and met someone online but thinking back, I think I was in the office but she was at home. Anyway, we didn't spark and I can't even remember her name (so much for building up my sistas!); we managed about half-an-hour's conversation but after that it was a struggle and needless to say we haven't met since.
Today was a much more positive experience. I met up with someone I know by sight because she organises a lot of the network events but haven't actually spoken to before. But we had a good chat about some of our interests and how interests overlap in ways you might not expect. At one point I thought I'd uncovered another FF fan, but it turned out it's her partner who's the fan. Oh, well - can't have everything!
One of my immediate colleagues asked to meet up for coffee a couple of weeks ago, but Life and Work keep getting in the way and we have to keep reorganising it. I joked today that it's starting to feel personal, which they assured me it isn't. Feels like they have a lot bottled up and need to let it out. I suggested trying the Leafyard thing, but I don't expect they did.
I watched the latest video from Leafyard yesterday. If you don't respond to the email prompt within a few days, you get a reminder saying something like, 'we know you're putting this off but it'll really help'. Well, I'm not putting it off, I'm just busy! And if I was feeling all the anxiety you assume I'm feeling, guilting me into watching your video isn't really going to help. I've said before that I really appreciate the university paying for us to have access to this service and I'd feel churlish not using it - but it expects you're using it because you're having issues of some description.
Yesterday's session wanted me to fill in the built-in journal, assuring me it was completely confidential. It's structured around 5 questions that ask you to reflect on a specific event - but the video said, 'don't think about it too much, just start writing'. But I don't have an event I want to unpack in that way AND the structure feels artificial to me. AND, I have a journal. It did offer some helpful information on the value of journalling and writing in general, though - again, nothing particularly new but a good reminder. So that's something.
I've stuck with it because I keep hoping I'll learn something new, and keep being disappointed :D It does make me realise how much 'work' I've done on myself over the years, though.
I also had a frustrating time trying to transfer the Virgin DD to the joint account. The site says you have to clear your bill first, then you'll be taken to a link to change your bank details. The first frustrating thing was the new app my bank has made. The old one I had on my phone since I opened my own current account with them and had no problem with. The new one - I think today was about the 5th or 6th time I've reinstalled it. Every so often it just freezes, or gets stuck on the loading screen with the purple spinning circle of death. Anyway, I get the app reinstalled and pay the bill, then click on the link to change my bank details - which takes me back to the start where I have to pay off the bill... (The bill is paid, btw, but it still shows the same amount being due.) I'm WFH on Friday, so I'll try ringing Virgin because this is the second time I've gone through the process with the same result.
And tomorrow is Rising Tide Day!!! *bounces excitedly* The boys can watch Liverpool (hopefully) overcome a 3-0 deficit at Atalanta, whilst I go looking for sea monsters. I know who'll have most fun :D
Today was a much more positive experience. I met up with someone I know by sight because she organises a lot of the network events but haven't actually spoken to before. But we had a good chat about some of our interests and how interests overlap in ways you might not expect. At one point I thought I'd uncovered another FF fan, but it turned out it's her partner who's the fan. Oh, well - can't have everything!
One of my immediate colleagues asked to meet up for coffee a couple of weeks ago, but Life and Work keep getting in the way and we have to keep reorganising it. I joked today that it's starting to feel personal, which they assured me it isn't. Feels like they have a lot bottled up and need to let it out. I suggested trying the Leafyard thing, but I don't expect they did.
I watched the latest video from Leafyard yesterday. If you don't respond to the email prompt within a few days, you get a reminder saying something like, 'we know you're putting this off but it'll really help'. Well, I'm not putting it off, I'm just busy! And if I was feeling all the anxiety you assume I'm feeling, guilting me into watching your video isn't really going to help. I've said before that I really appreciate the university paying for us to have access to this service and I'd feel churlish not using it - but it expects you're using it because you're having issues of some description.
Yesterday's session wanted me to fill in the built-in journal, assuring me it was completely confidential. It's structured around 5 questions that ask you to reflect on a specific event - but the video said, 'don't think about it too much, just start writing'. But I don't have an event I want to unpack in that way AND the structure feels artificial to me. AND, I have a journal. It did offer some helpful information on the value of journalling and writing in general, though - again, nothing particularly new but a good reminder. So that's something.
I've stuck with it because I keep hoping I'll learn something new, and keep being disappointed :D It does make me realise how much 'work' I've done on myself over the years, though.
I also had a frustrating time trying to transfer the Virgin DD to the joint account. The site says you have to clear your bill first, then you'll be taken to a link to change your bank details. The first frustrating thing was the new app my bank has made. The old one I had on my phone since I opened my own current account with them and had no problem with. The new one - I think today was about the 5th or 6th time I've reinstalled it. Every so often it just freezes, or gets stuck on the loading screen with the purple spinning circle of death. Anyway, I get the app reinstalled and pay the bill, then click on the link to change my bank details - which takes me back to the start where I have to pay off the bill... (The bill is paid, btw, but it still shows the same amount being due.) I'm WFH on Friday, so I'll try ringing Virgin because this is the second time I've gone through the process with the same result.
And tomorrow is Rising Tide Day!!! *bounces excitedly* The boys can watch Liverpool (hopefully) overcome a 3-0 deficit at Atalanta, whilst I go looking for sea monsters. I know who'll have most fun :D
